Self-Esteem Matters: How To Boost Your Nine-Year-Old’s Confidence

Posted by Blooms The Chemist on 19 May 2020

Self-Esteem Matters: How To Boost Your Nine-Year-Old’s Confidence

Many mums and dads find that watching their children grow up can be quite the rollercoaster. There are amazing moments of triumph, difficult downfalls, encouraging challenges, and moments of brave confidence.

As children grow out of the “I can do anything!” phase however, they may begin to question their abilities. In certain circumstances, some children may develop poor self-esteem or lack the confidence they deserve.

In this article, we look at how to nurture confidence in young children. Seeking professional advice is essential if you have any concerns about your child’s emotional well-being and mental health.

Let’s look at some ways[1] we can boost our children’s confidence levels:

  • Be a role model.

How confident are you, Mum and Dad? Whether we notice it or not, our children pick up on our displays of confidence. Your child can learn little self-digs and displays of low self-esteem. Set a good example by keeping your self-talk positive, sharing how you learn from mistakes, and talk about what you like about yourself. Then ask your child what they love about themselves.

  • Encourage them to try new things – and fail.

Some children become nervous about trying new things because they are afraid of failing. Doing things that you know how to do, and doing them well, is comfortable. Doing something new, and not so well, can be scary. Let’s teach our children that trying new things – and making mistakes – is something to be proud of.

  • Set attainable goals.

Reaching our goals feels fantastic. Children love to feel the rush of achieving one of their goals and are inspired to reach for new heights when they are successful. Encourage goal setting, help your child make goals that require work but are attainable with effort or time.

  • Celebrate the wins and losses

Whether your child has achieved great success, a tiny accomplishment, or even flat-out failed at something new, celebrate it. We deserve recognition for making leaps and working hard. Look for the silver lining in times of defeat and remind your child of how difficult it is simply to try something new.

  • Keep them accountable

If your child has certain chores or tasks at home, be sure to keep them accountable for holding up their end of the work. While they might not enjoy their duties, having these to-do’s and feeling needed can instil great confidence and pride.

Nine-year-olds are dealing with change and more awareness than their younger selves. Helping them to develop self-esteem and confidence can be interactive, bonding and a great way to prepare them for the imminent teen years.

Written by Kaitlan D.

As well as a writer with a passion for education, Kaitlan works in a wellness practice, working with mothers, mothers-to-be and hopeful mothers.


[1] Child Mind Institute. 12 Tips for Raising Confident Kids. 2020

All articles are provided as general information and are not intended, nor may it be construed, as medical advice or instruction. Information and opinions expressed are believed to be correct and accurate to the best knowledge and judgement of the authors. Readers should consult their appropriately qualified health care professional prior to taking any action or inaction.