Some mums may feel an immediate connection to their baby the second their pregnancy test shows two lines. They can picture this child in their arms and see the relationship unfold before them. It is almost as if they have always known each other. However, this is not always the case.
In this article, we explore the topic of when bonding may not come quickly or easily. This is actually quite common. By understanding this now, you may reduce feelings of pressure or anxiety if this is your experience. It is great to seek professional advice if these feelings arise, as they can be managed and resolved.
For many mothers-to-be, the journey of pregnancy has both highs and lows. One area of concern might be before the baby arrives. It is entirely possible that you may not feel the bond that you expected or heard about from other mums. It is really helpful to know that this is ok.
It may take a bit of time and perseverance to bond with the new tiny human you have yet to create and meet fully. You may be able to imagine what the baby will be like, but it all can feel a bit far away. For those who need this extra time and commitment to connect, let’s dive into some activities that may help.
- Creating an email account for your baby is a very popular idea. For your baby is a very popular idea. Having this email account allows a mum-to-be to have an outlet for communicating with your unborn child. It is often used to send letters or share updates. Seeing this email out in the world makes it all seem that much more realistic. When your child becomes older, this also serves as a second resource to compile memories that you can read together.
- Starting a journal is a similar strategy as having an email, except this can be personal. All those ideas and inspirations, late-night fears that may run through your head, or just silly thoughts that you want to put down can be thrown into your journal. Having a journal is also a great look back point to see how you once felt at a certain point along the journey.
- Sing-a-longs with the baby. After the first trimester, it is believed that your baby can hear your voice. So, why not let them hear your great singing voice as well? This can be a vulnerable choice, but one that is sure to break down the barriers with mum and baby. It is a bonus if your child looks at you funny when you sing the same songs to them after they are born.
Bonding with your baby is something that you can prepare for before they arrive. Knowing that this does not always happen without some effort helps reduce the potential for anxiety if that is your experience. A few simple activities can have both a mental health benefit and create some fantastic ways of documenting this unique and special time.
Written by Chelsea D.
Chelsea is a mum of one and pregnant with another. She writes about pregnancy, parenting, and body positivity.
All articles are provided as general information and are not intended, nor may it be construed, as medical advice or instruction. Information and opinions expressed are believed to be correct and accurate to the best knowledge and judgement of the authors. Readers should consult their appropriately qualified health care professional prior to taking any action or inaction.